Hands down, hand jobs have the potential to be the most stressful of all the sex acts. Unlike the mighty and powerful blow job, they are not something that only you can do for your partner (unless he’s really flexible, in which case, lucky lady!). And the scene can often play out as awkward: There you are, halfheartedly jerking your hands in an attempt to create a pleasurable experience for your partner — one that he had down to a science by age 14.
Before you let a defeatist attitude keep you from trying, remember: a lot of men love getting hand jobs, just like how you probably like require some digital action, too. Here are a few things to keep in mind the next time you offer to give your guy a hand.
1. Focus on the Entire Penis
Yes, the tip of the penis is super-sensitive. But just as many women love being touched along the outer and inner labia as well as the super important clitoris, the entire length of the penis deserves love.
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That also means thinking beyond the old-school notion of just jerking off.
“There is more to it than just ‘jerking him off,’ but it isn’t difficult,” Kelly Connell, w88 a sex educator and counselor at Naughty North, says. “A woman needs to keep in mind the penis has lots of nerve endings and a good hand job starts with touching the entire penis.”